Do you consider yourself to be a person of worth and value just because you exist?
Or is your value and worth other-dependent with all sorts of conditions attached to it? If so, make a list of the conditions that are attached to your worth and value. Is your self-confidence dependent upon external criteria? If so, make a list of the external criteria.
As we said in previous posts, self-esteem is everything. It greatly influences our overall experience of life. And yet for most of us, something this important seems to have little meaning and is a low priority in most of our lives. Even those who seem to know they have no self-esteem don’t give it much thought. It certainly isn’t a part of many everyday conversations. We don’t usually hear someone say they are having a hard time in their relationship because they have no self-esteem.
Most are too busy with other life issues to pay much attention, if any at all, to their self-esteem. Thus very few individuals ever get to realize what life can be like with self-esteem. Some even mistakenly think they have it when they don’t. But, unless you truly experience having self-esteem that is self-dependent instead of other-dependent, there is no way to know what it is. Very few realize that life is difficult without self-dependent esteem and is easier, even in the face of major life situations, when it exists because we are better equipped to handle almost any situation.
With self-dependent esteem, we could be free from ever worrying about what others thought about us again. We could be free from fear and stress, confident that even if we fail, we are still valuable and worthy of love.
If this is correct, then why wouldn’t everyone make self-dependent esteem a major life priority?
