Good with Me: A Simple Approach to Real Happiness from the Inside Out provides a simple approach to feeling good and being happy for real that lasts for more than a few minutes, hours, or days. It shows you how to change your thinking from negative to positive, how to let go of the ideas you were taught by an other-dependent society about who you should be, what you should be, what you should achieve, and what you should have in order to be happy. It shows you how to stop depending upon someone or something outside of yourself to make you happy. It shows you how to achieve happiness that belongs to you because it comes from the inside-out instead of from the outside-in.
People who have self-dependent esteem can make a mistake and not feel bad about who they are. They can make a poor choice without beating up on themselves (although the person with self-dependent esteem makes fewer poor choices because they are not always trying to second guess themselves and make choices dependent upon getting approval from others).
Yes, they might be disappointed that they made a mistake or poor choice or didn’t win the gold medal but they don’t esteem themselves any less because of it. They still esteem who they are. They know they always have value and their value isn’t dependent upon someone or something outside of themselves.
People who have self-dependent esteem remain happy even when they haven’t accomplished what they should have accomplished by now, even when they are broke, and even when no one likes them on Facebook today. They know they don’t have to be a basket case to show others they care or feel deeply about someone or something.
