Self-dependent esteem comes from the inside-out. It means thinking positive thoughts about yourself just because you’re you. It isn’t dependent upon validation from others, successes, or the accumulation of wealth and possessions.
This is especially good news for those who don’t receive much approval from others, who have nothing, who have not had a success, and are broke most of the time. Some become angry, enraged, violent, and even resort to criminal behavior because they think they don’t count.
Here is a testimonial from Dan, a Focus One participant, that exemplifies happiness just because:
“It’s amazing the lasting effects childhood bullying can have on one’s psyche. When it came to high school and college my insecurities came full bore. The “cool” kids were drinking, so I was drinking. The “cool” kids were smoking, so I was smoking. I was trying to be normal. After college I chased the money and society’s idea of success. I was being the person everybody wanted me to. Here’s the cliché catch though: all the success I could have didn’t fulfill my lack of security. It didn’t get me true happiness.
The stress in our lives is what we create and is often the ending result of us worrying about others and their opinions. This past week I was surrounded by family and friends for a best friend’s wedding. Instantly they all could pick up on a new Dan. A stress-free, happy, and smiling Dan was the end result of the progress made with Patricia Noll.
It’s amazing how simple and powerful being Good With Me can be on your outlook of life. By continuing to be positive at all turns of life, the life I live has been an absolute pleasure.”
– Dan Lopez
Tell me your story. Do you respect yourself from within just because you do?