How many times have you met someone that you thought was very unattractive and not your type of person?
As a result, you weren’t very interested in developing any kind of friendship or relationship with him or her. A week later you met up with him or her and this time you found this person to be very attractive — even fun! What changed? You changed your mind about this person. This is a perfect example of how “thinking, whether factually accurate or inaccurate, makes it so.” You thought you were right both times. Whether you were right before you changed your mind or after isn’t the point here — the point is that you actually created two different realities for yourself by initially thinking one way and later thinking another way.
When you “changed your mind” about him or her, you actually changed your thinking about him or her. Your changed thinking created a different reality regarding him or her for you. And, by the way, the two different realities regarding the same person are usually based upon the way you were thinking about yourself each time you met. You are more likely to think negatively about someone else when you are thinking negatively about yourself and vice versa.
Can you remember a time when you thought someone was downright awful? All the while you knew you were “dead right” about him or her until something actually changed your mind about that person at a later time? What was responsible for your change in attitude toward that person? Which thought was accurate? Do you remember how you might have been thinking about yourself before and after you changed your mind?
