Individuals who enjoy self-dependent esteem do not isolate themselves from others when they aren’t on top of their game.
They know that it doesn’t matter what someone else thinks about them. They realize that what they think about themselves is what really matters. Those who are self-dependent enjoy a sense of connectedness to the universe and everything in it. They enjoy connecting with others because they no longer need the approval of others. Coaching and support from others keeps them connected and is viewed as a vital component in the process of being a Good With Me person.
From this moment forward, whenever you begin to regress, perhaps returning to negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors, reach out! Ask for help. Contrary to your other-dependent thinking, this is not a sign of weakness. The ability to recognize the need for support and reaching out for it is a sign of strength!
When feeling all alone, unsettled, or like you’re losing ground, get out in the world. Even if it’s just taking a walk in the park or sitting outside in the grass, you’ll notice that you will gain a sense of connectedness with the rest of the outside world.
