There are all kinds of people with all kinds of secrets. The list of secrets is endless. And no matter how big or small, they are very real.
Whatever is on your list of secrets can be traumatic and emotionally debilitating. These secrets are the direct result of self-perception and self-deprecation that end up in self-victimization.
Is there anything you are trying to hide about yourself? Can you identify any of your secrets? Write them all down — don’t leave any out. What are you afraid of? What do you fear other people might find out about you? Do your best to be brutally honest with yourself as you make your list.
The “Great Pretenders” have a real need to be just like everyone else. This is another reason why they don’t want anyone to know about the things they try to keep hidden. They often feel different from others because of their secrets. They are usually uncomfortable with themselves while trying to be the same as everyone else.
What the ‘Great Pretenders” don’t realize is that almost everyone has a secret of some kind. So while the “Great Pretenders” are trying to be just like everyone else, everyone else is trying to be just like them. While you as a great pretender are trying to hide your secrets from others, they are trying to hide theirs from you as well. You feel insecure and so do they.
Their pretending comes from the same source as yours — you fear that you might not look good or be right and you fear what others might think about you. Likewise, they fear that they might not look good or be right and they fear what others, including you, might think about them.
