People who don’t take good care of themselves are often very angry people who act out their anger in a myriad of ways.
Their anger could explode and manifest itself as physical bullying, verbal abuse, domestic violence, and even murder. Conversely, it could implode and manifest itself as self-criticism, self-loathing, self-mutilation, and even suicide.
Numerous studies show that anger management seldom works, but some of you already know that. The key to dissipating anger is self-dependent esteem. With that, the anger disappears. It’s almost like magic. How can we not be angry when we think we’re not good enough or when there seems to be something wrong with us?
When you take care of everyone else first, you give yourself the message that you aren’t as important as they are.
When you take care of yourself first, you actually give your own psyche the message that you are just as important as everyone else. You give yourself the message that you have as much value as they have, that you are just as worthy.
You can make the switch from other-dependent esteem to self-dependent esteem by doing all of the things for yourself that you have been doing for others. You stop waiting around for others to reciprocate your good deeds. Instead, you nurture yourself.
