Are you someone who has to be right? Are you someone who has to know it all? Do you argue a point to the nth degree in order to be right? Do you alienate even the best of friends to prove your point? Have you ruined a relationship or two because of your need to be right?
The attachment to being right is another manifestation of other-dependent esteem. The attachment to being right, just like the attachment to looking good, is grounded in the negative thoughts you have about yourself. When you have to be right all the time, you give yourself the impossible task of having to know it all. In other words, you have to know everything about everything. WOW! What an unattainable task you’ve given yourself.
The need to be right is a serious attachment. An extreme example of the need to be right occurs when nations go to war to be right! How about cultures that annihilate each other because the other culture is wrong? If you’d rather be right at all costs, your need to prove your worthiness is a glaring indication that you have no self-dependent esteem.
The fact is that no one knows everything about everything—no one. When your thoughts about yourself are negative, you may be one of those individuals whose thinking falls into one of three possibilities:
1. Everyone else surely does know everything about everything.
2. At the very least, other people know a lot more than I know.
3. Others don’t know much of anything at all.
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